The idea of including a third person in your life which you have been living with your husband and according to your own decisions is actually similar to including a lead in the movie, of which you are the director. The fact that your life will change, as well as the expectation of raising a good person and the responsibilities that come along with this expectation are really intimidating. Apart from these, however, having a baby that will belong only to you and your beloved man, and bring different kinds of maturity and joy to you with its each and every movement becomes the most miraculous wish you could ever make.
Our process began so. Can we make it, or do we need more time? First we asked each other “Why delay it further?” What would we wait for? We wanted to get the taste and experiences of life from a different perspective together with our baby. We prayed to God to bless us with such miracle. When I finally learnt, after an exciting wait, that I was pregnant, none of those crazy questions popped up in my mind. At that moment, I had the experience of crying and laughing at the same time. My little miracle taught us something right from the start.
When I later let my husband know the fact in a nice way, his reaction was not less than or different from mine. This is such a different feeling that you feel that a brand new life has been put in your hands and the gates to a brand new life have been opened.
I am 33 weeks pregnant now. There are 7 weeks left to meet my little miracle. Or maybe less. Whenever my little one wishes to come… We will be waiting for him from week 38 on.
As a mother-to-be, you spend days and weeks way different from each other. While a particular week is happy and busy, the next one is spent full of emotions and tears. Your body surprises you each week. Just for a moment you think you have gotten ugly, and next thing you know you have the most beautiful skin ever. You think your hair seems damaged and dry, and then, all of a sudden, you realize it is bright and shiny. You go through times when your movements slow down, your back pain is increased, and you have a hard time turning from one side to another in your bed.
You realize that you react to things in a more emotional way. You want the best for your baby and the slightest negative thought from outside seems unbearable for you. However, the fact that you know all these are temporary and all will be okay when that big moment comes, allows you to experience this process in a more enjoyable way. Once you start feeling the movements inside you and your baby has begun responding to you, at that moment you more or less begin to understand what a miraculous experience you are having.
I think you should experience both ups and downs during your pregnancy. I mean, do whatever you want at that moment. If you want to cry, do it, or laugh whenever you feel like. That is because this is a rare experience, and remember, it is all for meeting that little miracle. Thus, keep this in mind and spend your time during pregnancy in the best way possible by collecting beautiful memories. Prepare for your little miracle as best as you can with your husband and write down these moments so that your child can read these in the future.
Remember that anything you eat and drink affects your little miracle; quit your bad habits and eat healthy under the supervision of your doctor because the key to healthy generations is the mothers-to-be eating healthy.
The most important person one may need during this process is one’s husband. We get in a different psychological phase and begin seeing from a different perspective than our husbands. Of course, it is impossible not to confront each other in this process; however, the more our husbands are knowledgeable about the process, the higher chance we have of going through it more easily. In the future, you and your husband will recall and laugh about these ups and downs. The most important thing that made this process easy for me was having a wonderful husband who realized the changes in me, watched me closely and approached me in the right way. Now we are preparing for our son in the best way possible in order to make this process even more enjoyable. Therefore, I get the chance to enjoy these last weeks during which I have gradually gotten slower.
Long story short, this process called pregnancy means witnessing a miraculous event. Let your body change as much as it can while you focus on the movements of the miracle growing inside you, and do not forget how lucky you are to feel those movements.
